Twelve Days

Twelve Days

It’s been twelve days since our dear friends lost their 16-year-old in an ATV accident about a mile from our house. Twelve days that I imagine have felt like eternity to them. Twelve days where time has simply stopped. How do you begin to comfort someone when you don’t have the right words or answers to their questions?

When I arrived at their home approximately two hours after the accident (as soon as I heard it was their son) there were cars parked up and down the street of our small town. Teenagers sitting on the front lawn consoling each other. A wrestling coach telling those teens that they are like his own. Other parents there to support the family any way they knew how. I was told our pastor was one of the first to arrive. Family members were coming and going…some walking around in a daze with tears freely falling.

We took turns holding Jude’s mama up as she sobbed. We prayed over her as she tried to breathe. A friend and I sat and prayed aloud together for Jesus to make Himself so very known right then and there. We prayed for Him to comfort all who were grieving and for the enemy to stay out of that house and off of that property. We prayed for peace. We prayed for mercy and grace. We prayed for everything we could think of. Every time a new thought came…we prayed. In such horrific circumstances, it was our honor to lift their needs to Jesus, the Healer, the Comforter, the All in All.

Friends, what do we do when tragedy strikes? What do you do? This isn’t a trick question…just something to ponder.

Do you run to Jesus? To friends? To family? I’m not saying any of them are wrong. Jesus certainly uses humans to console us and I, personally, am so grateful for them.

But Jesus. Jesus knows our thoughts, feelings, and emotions. He can handle them all and He will sustain us. He will sustain the Olson family, even when it might not feel like He is. That’s why we depend on His Word rather than our feelings. Feelings are fleeting, they come and go, but God’s Word stands true forever.

Isaiah 40:8 says, “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God endures forever.” NIV (emphasis mine)

When God promises that His plans are for good, not evil, we need to believe Him. In John 13:7 Jesus replied, “You don’t understand what I am doing, but someday you will.” (NLT) Even when it hurts and you don’t want to go on, God will give you strength and comfort. Wait on Him and know He will never leave your side.

Dear Aaron, Jill, Jasper and Josiah, God has a plan. One we don’t understand. One day it will be revealed to us fully and we will know all of the answers that flood our minds. For now, lean on those who love you and care for you. We are here for you in the darkest moments. More importantly, Jesus is there with His arms wrapped around you…comforting you in a way only He can. He is meeting you where you are. We love you, we love you, we love you.

(For those of you who don’t know the Olson family, Jude is the son on the far right. He is now face to face with His Maker, surrounded by His glory…)


  1. Leanne M Sannes

    This gave me chills and tears!! This is beautiful!!


      Awww…thanks Leanne. God is so good, isn’t He? Even in the middle of the bad news and the bad diagnosis and the hurt. He has a plan. (I just want to know what it is sometimes! I get impatient…) May He bless you abundantly Leanne!

  2. Heidi Larson

    Wonderful words, Rochelle! God is certainly using you to heal others!


      Thank you Heidi!


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