Sons and Their Mothers

Many of you know it’s not normal for me to post two days in a row. I received such a great response after yesterday’s post regarding “launching” our boys. It’s been on my mind all day and into the night.

While I was listening to some music in bed (actually on YouTube), I came across a video I had posted a while ago on my personal FB page. It’s called “Mothers”. Does anyone know which video I’m talking about? Well, I watched it again tonight and felt it fit in so well with what I was talking about in my last post.

I had been questioning myself: Is my job as a mother done when my boys start gravitating towards their father? What is my role now? Where do I fit it? (By the way, these are close to the questions I believe Daniel felt early on when the boys would come running to me instead of him. Granted, I was a stay-at-home mom who was with them so much more of the time. I know it still stung as he watched them choose me for a lot of their needs.)

As our oldest went off to college and his teenage brother clearly didn’t need his mom anymore, I was a bit lost. Okay, I was really lost. I didn’t expect to feel that way so early on. I thought I had at least another 6-10 years before being left in the dust. Nope. The boys want their dad, which is very natural. I understand why and I know it’s supposed to go that way. I heard many years ago that the most influential parent is the same-sex parent. So for all of these years, I knew the time was coming when they would move away from me and move closer to their dad.

In yesterday’s post, I was wondering aloud if I had taught them enough or taught them the right things, questioning my “mothering” the entire time. I knew there were things left to teach them, even if one is already a college student. I just didn’t exactly know what I was to teach them. Well, this song tonight reminded me of a very important job I still have left…one that I don’t think will ever end. It reminded me that I still have vital kingdom work left to do with these boys, with the help of Jesus.

I will never dismiss the importance of a father’s role in their child’s life. This song talks about fatherhood, too. It brings in what sons learn from their fathers, but also the gentleness of what a mother can teach them. You’ll see what I mean. 🙂

I’m going to type out the lyrics, as well as leave a link to the YouTube video below. I hope you’ll at least read through the words…but I’m telling you, the video is one you will never forget. (Warning: it’s a tear-jerker. Seriously.)

Mamas, there’s always important work to be done regarding our children. If you feel you’ve lost your place in parenting as I had, ask God to show you what your next step is. Guaranteed…He’ll lead you.

Once a mother, always a mother. God bless each of you…mothers and just as important fathers. Let’s do our best with these precious children He’s loaned us…and cheer each other on in the process.

“Mothers”

Mothers, show your sons how to treat a lady ’cause you got
Sons growing up to be men that grow up or not
They could be heading on a train
With that old school of thought
If u don’t stop and let ’em know that
Some boys will stay boys and some boys become men
Some men will never break the chain
They’ll go breaking hearts again

Mothers, do your best to raise ’em up
Try not to hold ’em down
They’ll come around
Mothers, let ’em go
You can let ’em fall
And if they hit the ground
They’ll figure it out and
Sons learn the world
From their fathers, they’ll get even farther
If they learn how to treat a lady, love a girl
From their mothers
From the mother

Mothers, tell the fathers it’s okay to let ’em cry
And being strong’s letting somebody inside
Let’s let generations fall away from pride
Don’t you think it’s time ’cause
Some boys will stay boys if you tell ’em to hold it in
And history will just repeat itself again

Mothers, do your best to raise ’em up
Try not to hold ’em down
They’ll come around
Mothers, let ’em go
You can let ’em fall
And if they hit the ground
They’ll figure it out and
Sons learn the world
From their fathers, they’ll get even farther
If they learn how to treat a lady, love a girl
From their mother

Something ’bout a son and a mother
Ain’t like no other love like a
Mothers, do your best to raise ’em up
Try not to hold ’em down
They’ll come around
Mothers, let ’em go
You can let ’em fall
And if they hit the ground
They’ll figure it out and
Sons learn the world
From their fathers, they’ll get even farther
If they learn how to treat a lady, love a girl
From their mother
(Do your best to raise them up…)

https://youtu.be/70Mys0o_ad8

(I don’t own any rights to these lyrics or this song.)

6 Comments

  1. Nancy

    Thank you. This is so true. Always a mother. Even when our children are grown. God Bless you!

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    • Rochelle Bauer

      Yes. 💓 Once a mother, always a mother. God bless you, too! Thank you for your message.

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    • Connie Rucinski

      Though I’m not a mother I am a god mom to a wonderful young man And felt the heartfelt words you wrote Rochelle of your job as a mom and Child of God I think those boys learned from watching you with Alex and how you have dealt as a family with your faith It’s very evident in what you wrote here and much of the past I have read Thank you

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      • Rochelle Bauer

        Thank you, Connie. You always say such loving words to me. I hope I have loved my faith in front of my boys…that’s the goal. 💓

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    • Shelly

      I adore your heart in this!!

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      • rochelleb@me.com

        ❤️ Thank you!

        Reply

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