Not All Is Merry and Bright

To the one whose Christmas isn’t all merry and bright,

I see you.

I see your pain.

I see you struggling with decorations and gifts and lists, wondering if you can do any of it at all.

I see you dreading the gatherings because you don’t think you can feel joy.

I see you crying into your pillow at night longing for these holidays to just be over with already.

Not all is merry and bright for those in the midst of heartache and loss, depression and loneliness. It might sound wrong to people who don’t understand, but it’s reality.

Jesus understands the reality of your hesitation, grief, heartbreak, and sadness. He understands your heart during what is supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year”.

The commercials show families’ excitement and joy, but what about those who don’t have a family anymore?

The stores show the best-selling gifts, but what about those who don’t know how they will pay next month’s rent?

The aisles are lined with ingredients for those special holiday meals, but what about those who don’t know where their next meal will come from?

There’s so much more going on than what society chooses to see and portray.

Today, I want you to know that Jesus sees you. He sees your struggle and He knows what you’re facing. He empathizes with you during the holiday season and instead of just sitting at the head of the most beautifully decorated table, He will sit on the bathroom floor with you as you hide out and cry. He knows. He understands.

Christmas is a time of celebrating Christ’s birth. However, if you can’t celebrate the traditional way, it doesn’t mean you’re less of a believer. Hear me when I say that. The traditions that are manmade can be just as fleeting as our feelings. Our deep faith, through the good and the bad, is what’s truly important.

So this Christmas, give yourself grace. Allow yourself to do the best you can do, with disregard to other people’s standards. They aren’t living your life. They aren’t feeling your feelings. Let the expectations go.

You will make it, and Jesus will be with you every step of the way.

You are loved. Rest in His peace.

(I don’t own any rights to this song/video.)
https://youtu.be/nT-5cP4BeoI

 

 

 

14 Comments

  1. Alida

    Thank you so much for these grace-filled encouraging words.

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Thank you for reading and commenting. It’s means a lot to me! Blessings to you…

      Reply
  2. Stephanie Miller

    I needed to hear all of that! Amen!

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      I wondered if that would speak to you, my friend. Love ya!

      Reply
  3. Cheryl Baldwin

    Rochelle, This was so thoughtfully written. Thank you for writing this.. for those that I know are grieving, these words will allow them to grieve but also, keep their eyes on the criss. Have a very merry Christmas and happy and healthy New Year for you and tour family!

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    • Rochelle

      Thank you, Cheryl. My hope is that this post comforts those who are hurting, whether with grief or other life circumstances. All the while, like you said: “keeping their eyes on the cross”. I pray you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

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  4. Connie Rucinski

    Merry Christmas and Peace to you and yours Rochelle. Spot on The holidays are hard We all have our pain. Hugs

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    • Rochelle

      Hugs to you, Connie. Praying you have a blessed Christmas!

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  5. Barbara A Jensrud

    You wrote down what is in my heart. I don’t watch any Hallmark movies because they are just too fake. Real life isn’t quite that easy. Through it all. I just focus on that it’s Jesus birthday. Not about how much I get done or how much I decorate. It’s so good to know that Jesus meets us where we are at. Life is messy. Thank you for your lovely way of writing!! it is truly a gift!!

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Amen! Keeping your focus on Jesus’ birthday rather than what you get done or how much you decorate is huge. It really is good that He meets us where we’re at…or I might miss Him. 😉 Thank you for your kind words, Barb. I’m praying for you during this season.

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  6. Shannyn

    Beautifully written straight from the heart

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    • Rochelle

      Thank you, Carrie. I apologize for the big delay in responding. Life has thrown us a few punches lately. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment! May He bless you abundantly!

      Reply

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