Letting Go and Letting God

When I asked many of you what you have the hardest time letting God have control over, I was pleasantly surprised at the amount of answers I received. I was thankful for some of the private conversations I was able to have with others; conversations that might not have taken place otherwise. Thank you for sharing your hearts with me…your fears…your struggles. It isn’t always easy to be vulnerable.

By far, the most common answer I received was about your children, spouse, and family. Finances came in a close second. I heard about loss and grief, health issues, general stress, feeling bombarded with so many trials, in-laws, and our futures. Other comments included negative self-talk, the actual act of surrendering, small things in our lives we think we can just handle ourselves, and more. I imagine most of us can relate to at least one of these answers.

So, let me ask you: why do you think it’s so hard to hand over control of these things, these people, these situations? Why do we struggle with giving the God of the Universe control over different areas of our lives?

For me, I’ve shared this quote before, but I’ll share it again. “I’m afraid of the past repeating itself.” The part of the future that brings me fear and a desire for control is the chance that I could go through an excruciating circumstance again. To be frank, I don’t want to do it again. I don’t want to fight the fight again, hand over one of my sons again, deal with extreme loss again. I just don’t want to do it. It did me in the first time and I don’t want to face it again. Ever. With either of our boys or with my husband.

Then I remember how close I got to God during the hardest trials in my life. Not just with our son, but with other situations. When the rest of the world (unimportant things I used to pay attention to) were blurred on the edges of my vision, I only saw my core family and God. To be honest, I want that part of it back again. I want the worldly concerns to fade away in the distance and I want to be present in the here and now. With my two sons and my husband. With God in the center of it all.

We are told in the book of John that we will have troubles on this earth. We aren’t immune to it; in fact, we should expect it because we are living in this world. That’s not to say we won’t experience joy or have happy experiences. We can live in the joy of the Lord, but we need to remember that we’re not exempt from pain and heartache.

Friends, I think that’s where the hammer hits the nail on the head. We’re not exempt and (speaking for myself) I want to be. I want to tell God that I’m done with the pain. Don’t send any more my way. I’m finished. I’ve gone through enough. I’ve paid my dues. I’m done.

Sadly, it doesn’t work that way. (Don’t think I haven’t tried that.) We’re told that in this world we will have trouble. But there’s more to the verse. Jesus tells us to take heart (or in other words, remain positive) because Jesus has already overcome the world. He has overcome sin and death so when our time on earth is done, if we believe in Him, we can live freely with Him for eternity. No more darkness, no more pain. free at last.

This time on earth is a mere smidge compared to eternity. To bear our pains here for a short time knowing the best is yet to come is our hope. Jesus, the One Who bore it all for us, is our hope.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not diminishing the pain and anguish we go through while here on earth. Those are very real feelings. The unpaid bills are very real struggles. The diagnoses aren’t a joke. The stress over in-law relationships is a battle we might have to fight. Our negative self-talk isn’t imaginary…. some are scarred from past relationships. All of these things are very real, and we have to deal with them. Thankfully God has given gifts to doctors and other professionals to help us navigate these earthly pains.

The difference is…we can have hope as we face them. We can know there’s a bigger purpose, a bigger plan that we can’t see, and we can know God is in charge of it all. Many ask why God allows bad things to happen. I truly believe He allows hurt to bring us closer to Him and to strengthen our relationship with Him.

When all our earthly things are gone, Jesus remains. He’s standing there with hope and love and comfort and all the answers to our questions.

For now, as you face your struggles that seem to continue coming, don’t forget about Jesus. He may perform a miracle (let me tell you, He’s done it before) or He may calm you in the midst of the storm. Nevertheless, He won’t leave you to fight it all alone.

Dearest Jesus, our Miracle Worker, I lift up those who are reading this. I ask You to bless them for believing in You and being vulnerable with me. You know who is dealing with what. Nothing escapes You. I ask that You make Your presence known; that if it’s Your will, You will deliver them from whatever they’re facing. Remind us we are never alone, and we never face things without You present. We praise You for Your sovereignty over it all. We lift up our circumstances to You now…we place them in Your hands…and we will trust You with them. Please become real to those who need to “see” You at this time. We love You and praise Your Holy Name. Amen.


  1. Mary Folkerts

    Beautifully written! I too struggle with letting go and letting God! It really is a trust issue! I know God but I don’t know if he will. He sees perfectly and I don’t.

    • rochelleb@me.com

      Thank you, Mary. You’re right-He sees perfectly and we do not.


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