Forgotten

Years ago, I was a part of women’s bible study. I had been invited by the leader, but I wasn’t close with any of the other women there. It was at a house I had never been to before, but I put on my brave face and attended every weekly session.

One particular week I drove up to the house and noticed the vacancy of vehicles. I was the only one there just minutes before we were to begin. I knocked on the door of the house, and the husband answered looking confused. I asked if there was bible study that night. He told me something had come up and they had canceled.

No one had called me. Everyone else got the memo…but me.

I thanked him and walked away, holding back the tears. If I had ever felt forgotten…it was at that moment. Any sense of belonging went out the window, and I questioned the purpose of me attending that study.

Have you ever been forgotten?
Have you ever felt forgotten?

Maybe you have a story like me. I don’t think anyone did this to me to be cruel or mean. I was just simply overlooked. However, the enemy sure took the opportunity to tell me how unwanted, unimportant, and uninvited I was.

You may remember the story of Lazarus dying. Mary and Martha called for Jesus to come because Lazarus was sick, and they knew Jesus could make him well again. Except Jesus didn’t come.

It says in John 11:4 that Jesus proclaims Lazarus’ sickness wouldn’t end in death but instead be used for God’s glory. He knew the plan all along, but the sisters didn’t. When Jesus didn’t show up, I imagine they may have felt forgotten.

Did they wonder if Jesus was too busy to come?
Did they wonder if Jesus didn’t care?
Did they wonder if they were just overlooked? Forgotten?

Lazarus had been in the tomb for four days by the time Jesus arrived. Yet, because of Jesus’ miraculous power, time wasn’t of the essence. Mary went to Jesus and told Him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” She didn’t yet understand the plan Jesus had. She just knew her brother had died because Jesus hadn’t come.

As you may know, Jesus did raise Lazarus from the dead and God’s glory shone through the miracle. He was able to show Mary and Martha that they, indeed, weren’t forgotten. This was the plan all along.

But those human feelings can still come. Our emotions can take over when Jesus is silent on a matter, and we feel forgotten…even by Him. We can feel forgotten when we see snaps or pictures of friends out together and you weren’t invited. We can feel overlooked when those we thought were in our circle of friends choose to exclude us. Maybe these things aren’t done on purpose, but our feelings are still real.

Even though others in this world may forget us (or choose to leave us out), we can rest assured that Jesus never will. Don’t get me wrong…it may feel like He’s forgotten you, but He hasn’t.

Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Don’t be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Even when the ways of this world don’t go as we’d hoped…even when the invitations don’t come…even when you’re the only one who wasn’t notified…you can rest knowing that Almighty God will never leave you nor forsake you.

That trumps everything in my opinion. How about you?

Do you have an “uninvited” or “forgotten” story? Feel free to share it in the comments. I think we could all use some encouragement that we’re not the only ones…

 

 

12 Comments

  1. Susan Davidson

    Boy, did I need to be reminded “God hasn’t forgotten me” this morning. I was already spending time with Hannah and how she dealt with her own time of feeling forgotten this morning. This was confirmation. Thanks for sharing!

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Isn’t it amazing how God shares the same/similar message with us more than once? It’s like He’s trying to get our attention or something. 😉 I love when He does that! Thank you for sharing with me, my friend!

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  2. Erika

    Beautifully said. And so true. Thank you for sharing your heart. ❤️

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Thank you for your support and for taking the time to comment, Erika. God bless you!

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  3. Connie Rucinski

    I sure know how that feels living in the small town I am the one they ask when they want to hear about God with an experience they want me to confirm or someone has passed on….I learn with my faith that the time I didn’t think Jesus didn’t hear me turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Great thoughts Rochelle Thanks for sharing your heart

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    • Theresa Boedeker

      God doesn’t forget us, but we can feel forgotten. Yes, I have showed up to drop my daughter at carpool as mother was driving out of driveway and she doesn’t acknowledge me and then tells me when I call that she can’t carpool any more. That was her problem not mine. So try not to take it personally.

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      • rochelleb@me.com

        Oh Theresa, that could be so hurtful. But you’re right! It was her problem, not yours. I know the enemy just likes to play with my emotions and feelings. I’m learning not to take things personally. This particular event was so many years ago…yet it still stings just a tiny bit. God will heal!

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Thank you for your comment and constant support, Connie. Thank you for sharing your heart, too! God bless…

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  4. Angie Mitchell

    I understand that feeling so well. My Bible study this morning was on 2 Timothy 4:17 17 But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth. When if feels like we are alone, God is always there.

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Amen Angie! God is always there. We are NEVER forgotten or alone. Thank you, Jesus!

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  5. Shannyn

    Beautifully written and so very good! Thank you for this

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    • rochelleb@me.com

      Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Shannyn!

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